Where is the Harmony Keeper?
For most of us, duality means division. It is black and white. It is negative and positive. In this process, we enter the play of preferences: positive is better than negative, white is better than black. On a deeper level, repression shows up, such as: I prefer positive, so I repress negative in order not to feel it. We can apply this process on many layers: I prefer pleasure, so I deny pain. By and by, it also goes to the extreme of indulging in what feels good, what is pleasurable. It becomes an obsessive fight for the good and against the bad.

Now the question is: Who defines “bad” and who defines “ good?” On which criteria are bad and good based?

I leave it up to you to meditate on it!

Tantra defines duality as complementary forces that unite for the benefit of harmony. When these forces divide, there is ‘de-harmony’ – putting these forces against one another, thus generating fight, war… As a basic example: too much heat; you go hysterical, scream and beat up somebody (and regret it later on), too much cold; you become sad, depressed, suicidal (and can’t regret it later on because it is too late!). These are very simple facts happening worldwide on a daily basis.

My view is that we have become totally uprooted from our essence of harmony keepers. Somewhere inside all of us, there is a being who knows how to balance white and black for the benefit of ourselves, of others, of the planet, of nature…

Where this Harmony Keeper is hiding? Why do we prefer to screw up the whole planet, ourselves, our beloved, our family and our future generations instead of bringing into action the Harmony Keeper in all of us?

I  leave it to you to meditate on it!

Tantra is not for and is not against. It bypasses the game of preferences, of good and bad. It looks much deeper into the mysterious play of duality. It knows how to balance everything in us, outside us. It knows nothing is bad, nothing is good. Everything can work together in a creative harmony, music, silence… Tantra is waking up the Harmony Keeper! The one taking responsibility for harmony.

Do you want to wake up? Or you prefer to indulge in the sleepwalker who blindly misinterprets duality for division, thus promoting chaos as the only living state possible. Or you want to wake up and put into action the Harmony Keeper who carries a deep sense of discernment and who knows how to apply the most ancestral knowledge of harmony (Tantra), thus promoting nothing but simply living in a responsible way!

I leave it to you to meditate on it!

The trust we most of us mention is a very cheap trust.
It is worth nothing. We should not call it trust, actually. This word “trust” has been so much misused, like the word “love” too. Because it is misused, we don’t know the meaning of it anymore, we don’t know how to feel the meaning of it anymore. It has become only something psychological, something of the mind.

Trust doesn’t live in your mind neither in your psychology, nor in your emotions. Trust lives in your heart. It can’t be questioned. It can’t be broken. This is very important, we understand this: it can’t be broken. The trust we mention can be broken. It can’t be called trust. It is something else. It is a contract between two persons. The contract can be broken at any time. Trust never and love too!

I hear many times people saying they have their heart broken. I don’t know what they speak about, but certainly not of the heart, not of love and not of trust. Because all these words are being misused, they are interpreted. They start living in the mind. People, when they speak about love, about trust, about heart, they do refer to the mind. When they say I love this man, I love this flower. It is not the heart speaking, but the mind. And it would be better to say: I like this man and I like this flower.

People only speak about preferences. They do not speak about love. When it is about trust, it is the same. They trust what they prefer. And what you prefer can change at any time. This is why trust and love can be broken. The love, the trust, the unbroken ones at the centre of the heart do not have preference. It trusts, it loves, that’s it! I would like you also to understand that you can’t divide trust and love. They are functioning together. They are part of the same dynamic. When you say I trust, you also say I love. When you say I love you, also say I trust. It is nearly the same word for the same thing, just a slightly different colour.

The trust you mention is the one living in the mind, the one making contracts, the one with likings. This is the one I call the cheap trust. You can even buy it. It is what people do amongst each other. They buy the trust of each other. They buy the love of each other.

The trust at the centre of the heart is stable. It is something which never moves. The trust, the cheap one in the mind, is in constant movement, and the same for the love living in the mind. It has no stability. You can’t rely on it. You can’t rely on a trust coming from the mind. The trust at the centre of the heart, which has no movement, which is in total stability, you can rely on it always. Whatever happens, whatever the circumstances, inner or outer, it will never move; you can rely on it. It has a power of transformation, which is not the case with the trust living in the mind. The trust living in the mind only has the power of destruction. It is a businessman. The trust of the mind relies on business only. The trust centred in your heart has a power of stability and of transformation. It means that whatever the negative circumstances, even painful ones, it will absorb them and it will transform them. As long as you live with a trust anchored in the mind, you will never be at rest. You will always be suspicious. You will always question.

At the centre of your heart, there is a trust which doesn’t ask questions. I would say it is The Answer. Once you are in this trust deep in the heart, there are no more questions. You simply live the trust, you are in it, you enjoy it, you flow with it. It is good that you see the picture and understand it, and by and by withdraw the energy involved in the trust of the mind. In this way, you bring back your energy in the trust of the heart.

What does it mean when you say: “I went deep” or “I go deep”?… 
I hear these a lot and many times I wonder what this is all about. Where do you go to when you go deep?
I do also express myself this way. I do refer to depths, especially in our Tantra retreats where I do ask people to go deep. But I realise by and by that there is a misunderstanding on what this depth is about.

Here are some understandings: Most of the time we are living on the surface, meaning that our energy is involved in the traffic of the mind. It is a lot about movements, about outgoing energy. Nothing stable in that! Right now you agree with me, in a few seconds you will disagree… so on and so forth! This morning you love your beloved, by lunch time you hate him/her, and by diner you love him/her again. These movements are based on duality. No judgment about that, but for sure there is nothing deep in it! When we move away from this ongoing unstable movement, we fall into the Center.

What is the Centre about? It is a place where there is no movement; a place where consciousness shines bright; where love is felt as a total unconditional source of peace; a place where we are ageless; a place where we are never born and where we never die; a place of emptiness; a place beyond time and form; a place of stability; a place of unity; oneness… I could add more, but I guess this is enough to resonate in you. You know this place! Everyone knows it, but simply forgets about it. Thus, the effort of Tantra is to bring us back to that state repeatedly until we finally remain there. Call it enlightenment, awakening… One thing is sure: in the Centre, we are in the depths of existence!

In short: To go deep means to reach out to the Centre and to stay in it. It needs a longing, a willingness to go there. It requires specific methods and situations to step into the Centre, which demand great discipline.

So what was going wrong? Was it me? Was it the orgasm?
Is orgasm insignificant, or is there really something valuable in it?

I decided to dive much deeper into the phenomenon of orgasm to understand what it is truly about. This is certainly the most profound and interesting road I’ve ever taken! At first, I observed that at the moment of orgasm, there is a blackout, the same one we have in deep sleep. We are gone somewhere, but we have no idea where we have been. The only thing we notice is that when we come back, we feel rejuvenated and we feel extremely good and clear. When I started to notice the blackout, I took the challenge to stay awake at the moment of orgasm. It took a while and lots of experiments. But I did succeed, and I made a major discovery: Orgasm is not only a physical phenomenon of high pleasure but a vibration which aligns to the frequency of consciousness.

The core frequency of orgasm is consciousness. Like the core of a deep meditative state is consciousness. From there, everything changed in my approach to sex and orgasm. The pleasure of orgasm became secondary, like in the background, while the space of consciousness became the first priority for me to dive into.
Now, while building up orgasm, I know I build up energy to raise myself to the frequency of consciousness. When Orgasm happens, I am at the peak of consciousness and not only at a peak of pleasure.

I learn to maintain myself in that frequency long after the orgasm has left my body. I practice staying in that frequency in my daily life, in my actions, in my relationships. And now, orgasm is truly a source of transformation, a deep meditative state, a place where I get to know myself.

Sex, orgasm,and lovemaking in the Tantric scene are very much commercialised because sex sells. I do not want to promote this.
I do not want to sell sex for Tantra.

Sex is fun, it is beautiful, but it is far from Tantra.
And it took me a long time to get it!! Only when I finally reached the centre of orgasm did I understand what Tantra refers to when it speaks about non-sexual lovemaking. In order to reach the frequency of consciousness, vibrating at the centre of orgasm, one needs to let go of sexuality, otherwise you stay stuck in the nice, juicy side of sex. You never enter the temple. You stay outside enjoying the beauty of the temple without encountering the divine dwelling in it. And this divine is you in a high state of consciousness.

Where is the Harmony Keeper?
For most of us duality means division. It is black and white. It is negative and positive. In this process enters the play of preferences: positive is better than negative, white is better than black. On a deeper level, repression shows up such as: I prefer positive, so I repress negative in order not to feel it. We can apply this process on many layers: I prefer pleasure, so I deny pain. By and by it goes also to extreme of indulging into what feels good, what is pleasurable. It becomes an obsessive fight for the good and against the bad.

Now the question is: Who defines “bad” and who defines “ good?” On which criteria bad and good they are based?

I leave it up to you to meditate on it!

Tantra defines duality as opposite forces that unite for the benefit of harmony. When these forces divide there is ‘de-harmony’ – putting these forces against one another thus generating fight, war… As a basic example: too much heat; you go hysterical, scream and beat up somebody (and regret it later on), too much cold ; you become sad, depressed, suicidal (and can’t regret it later on because it is too late!). These are very simple facts happening world wide on a daily base.

My view is that we have become totally up rooted from our essence of harmony keeper. Somewhere inside all of us, there is a being who knows how to balance white and black for the benefit of ourselves, of others, of the planet, of nature…

Where this Harmony Keeper is hiding? Why we prefer to screw up the whole planet, ourselves, our beloved, our family and our future generations instead of bringing into action the Harmony Keeper in all of us?

I  leave it to you to meditate on it!

Tantra is not for and is not against. It bypasses the game of preferences, of good and bad. It looks much deeper into the mysterious play of duality. It knows how to balance everything in us, outside us. It knows nothing is bad, nothing is good. Everything can work together in a creative harmony, music, silence… Tantra is waking up the Harmony Keeper! The one taking responsibility for harmony.

Do you want to wake up? Or you prefer to indulge into the sleep walker who blindly misinterprets duality for division thus promoting chaos as the only living state possible. Or you want to wake up and put into action the Harmony Keeper who carries a deep sense of discernment and who knows how to apply the most ancestral knowledge of harmony (Tantra) thus promoting nothing but simply living in a responsible way.!

I leave it to you to meditate on it!

Tantra takes us from pleasure into bliss, but what does it mean?
Taking the example of lovemaking, because it is there that mostly pleasure and bliss play a great role for all of us. Pleasure is a momentary sensation in the body, triggering happiness, relaxation, aliveness, a sense of togetherness with a partner.

Bliss is a state attained from being lovingly present without judgment, nor preference to whatever sensations occurring in the body. This state can last hours, days, months and hopefully eternity, depending on how much we surrender into it.

The deeper we surrender, the more bliss will refine into different layers of expansion, starting from the body bliss, where we feel one with our partner. We lose a sense of personality. There is no more you and your partner, but a big space of bliss unifying both of you. But on some level, there is still a separation. When bliss expands beyond the body, it moves you into unity with the cosmos, the universe, god, something much bigger than you and your partner. This cosmic bliss, if I can name it this way, has no point of return. It is an everlasting journey.

This journey starts with simple pleasures, such as looking into the eyes of your partner or moving together into a deep embrace and lovemaking, just to say it starts in your body! From pleasure into bliss, could be called from body to no-body or the great body of the Universe, which I refer to as the Mother space where we all come from.

This is a very beautiful subject,
However, it’s difficult to discuss because we have many ideas about it.

In short definition: It is a state of unity in which different polarities come together.

Within our body, we have different polarities at play. When they trigger each other, there are explosions and implosions, just different types of orgasm. The basic understanding is falling into the state of unity. We can reach it through many different doors. The one best known is sex. It is actually very narrow to put it down to sex only. We have many senses, which are all doors to the state of unity. If you listen carefully to music, you also come to orgasm. Two things come together: The music and you. These two vibrations of energy tuning to each other can come into orgasm, into unity. These orgasms open you to different states of consciousness.

In Tantra, we work a lot on the dimension of orgasm, because of its quality of unity. I try not to narrow it to the sex centre. The whole body can open all its doors to orgasm. Everything that reaches your body can give you an orgasm, even the noise on the street. If you relax, you get into the vibration, and here it is. Unity is here. Orgasm is here. It is beautiful to play with this. It also takes away the idea that orgasm only belongs to sex, to lovemaking, and that’s it. This is a beautiful way to explore it. Why not orgasm everywhere? Why not when you are sitting in the bus going to your office? Why not let it happen there too?…

There are no secrets in Tantra, and yet, paradoxically, Tantra is full of them!
The reason for this is very simple: It’s because we are so fucked up that we misuse everything! Look at how men and women misuse love. Look at what is happening in this world in the name of love! The Tantric Masters know us well, and seeing that their teachings would be misused, they made them secret.

Tantra is a big secret book!
And yet in some way, it is not. You can dive into the book very easily if you are open. In order for us not to misuse Tantra, the Tantric Masters play a lot of games! The Masters have devices, such as the chakra map. But there is much more, such as symbols and sounds. These are all kinds of secret codes. I am personally very in love with it. I found it so beautiful that the Masters have created these in such a loving way for us to fall into transparency, into presence, for us to have a sense of sacredness.

Tantra doesn’t need symbols or rituals, or statues, but for us to go into depth, the Tantric Masters have used what they found in different religions. It is very beautiful. In Tantra, you can find symbols coming from many different religions: Sufism, Hinduism… It was a way for the Masters to reach to everyone, to speak to everyone and to welcome everyone. Whether you are Hindu, Muslim, or Catholic, in Tantra, you are welcome. The way you relate to your religion, the symbol you use to reach the divine, can be used in Tantra. It is amazing to see that you can speak about Tantra in many countries with different religious backgrounds and still everybody understands.

Tantra is vast because it incorporates everything.
Everything is welcome in it. And still everything is secret! This is a mind-blowing story. It might look like everything is open, which can be very attractive. But the moment you surrender to the Master, you will realise that everything is secret, and you will have to figure it out all by yourself. It is delicate to speak about secrets in Tantra, because I cannot reveal them! This is also the play in transmitting Tantra that I find so beautiful. I am moving like this with my Master since many years. She just puts me in a meditation without telling me the secret behind it. She gives a picture, guidance to seduce us into moving deeper. Then you find out what the secret is. Stepping onto the path of Tantra, you constantly discover one secret after another…

Moving the furniture in your house doesn’t transform your house!
One of my observations is that most people who participate in all kinds of spiritual workshops, retreats (even our retreats!) are simply fooling themselves around by manipulating their life, mind, emotion and body thinking: ‘I have changed because I feel more relaxed, even more fulfilled’. But this change is just a move of furniture in the inner house from one room to another. It feels good, it feels new, refreshed, changed, but all the furniture are still there!! So actually, nothing has changed! You still have your furniture. No transformation has happened! And one day or another, you are bound to bump into this furniture. You thought you didn’t have anger anymore, and suddenly an unexpected situation pops up, and the dragon comes out. The dragon you thought was dead is more alive than before! It is no more on the first floor where he used to live, it is now on the second floor …

The process of transformation is obtained through Initiation…
The process of transformation, which is the foundation of Tantra, is obtained through Initiation. Transformation needs to be lit up in us because it is asleep! All the methods of Tantra generate energy to awaken the capacity of transformation. But these methods need an inner atmosphere for them to become active, like a baby needs a womb to grow. Initiation creates the womb, or maybe better to say, activates the womb. Another example: you can have a house and yet no electricity in it. Like having all the methods of Tantra, but not the energy to activate them. You can play around with all the methods, and yet nothing truly meaningful is going to happen. The methods need electricity!! Initiation is what brings the electricity into the method!

Initiation is a big word and very much misused by the way.
I like to handle it really carefully because it is too precious to be spoiled by mind concepts. It is good to understand that each Initiation is always about consciousness! Most of the time, because of our deep sleep, we are unconscious. An Initiation switches on the electricity in our bedroom, the light comes in and we wake up with a specific tool (depending on the tradition from where the initiation comes from) to use this light in our daily life, in our meditation practices… The light infuses the method of Tantra with the light of consciousness. Without the light, without the Initiation, the method is a bit empty.

You might wonder where and how to get the initiation.
There are sacred places, there are Masters (sometimes in disguise!), there are Medicine people… and more… which have their level of vibration in-tune with consciousness. We generally speak about enlightenment when we refer to this vibration, but I prefer not to use this word because it is one of the most misused in the spiritual scene. So let’s keep it to the vibration of consciousness. Moving in sacred places where this vibration is fully alive, initiation is happening all the time. Being in the presence of a person whose vibration is pulsating consciousness, there, too, initiation happens.

Now, to be able to pick up this vibration and receive the initiation, you need silence, respect, gratitude, a clear intention and most of the time: healing. You need a very calm inner climate if you do not want the mind to interfere. To create this inner climate, enabling you to be receptive to initiation and to be attuned to the vibration of consciousness, is the work I like to share with you.