Pema

What does it mean when you say: “I went deep” or “I go deep”?… 

I hear these a lot and many times I wonder what this is all about. Where do you go to when you go deep?

I do also express myself this way. I do refer to depths, especially in our Tantra retreats where I do ask people to go deep. But I realise by and by that there is a misunderstanding on what this depth is about.

Here are some understandings: Most of the time we are living on the surface, meaning that our energy is involved in the traffic of the mind. It is a lot about movements, about outgoing energy. Nothing stable in that! Right now you agree with me, in a few seconds you will disagree… so on and so forth! This morning you love your beloved, by lunch time you hate him/her, and by diner you love him/her again. These movements are based on duality. No judgment about that, but for sure there is nothing deep in it! When we move away from this ongoing unstable movement, we fall into the Center.

What is the Center about? It is a place where there is no movement; a place where consciousness shines bright; where love is felt as a total unconditional source of peace; a place where we are ageless; a place where we are never born and where we never die; a place of emptiness; a place beyond time and form; a place of stability; a place of unity; oneness… I could add more, but I guess this is enough to resonate in you. You know this place! Everyone knows it, but simply forgets about it. Thus the effort of Tantra to again and again bring us back there until one day we stay. Call it enlightenment, awakening… One thing is sure: in the Center we are in the depths of existence!

In short: To go deep means to reach out to the Centre and to stay in it. It needs a longing, a willingness to go there. It needs some methods, some situations to step into the Center, which require great discipline.

It is what I would like to offer you in our new WildTantra Advanced Retreats of the Path of Awakening. I like to offer you a field of retreats, of methods that anchor you in the Center and hopefully keep you there.

I bow down with love and gratitude to your inner flame,

Pema

Beloved Tantrica,

This year the world has been and still is in a chaos. It is not a new chaos. It is there since a long time, but this year it has taken a bigger proportion. A war which can easily be called a third world war is shaking the whole world. On the Path of Tantra, it is said to accept everything, because everything can be transformed. Looking at war, I must say it is not easy to figure out what can be transformed there. But not so long ago in one of our recent retreats, I got a transmission which sheds a new light on what is going on in our chaotic time.

Who has made you afraid of love?
From my own experience, you cannot burn fear, you can only laugh at it. It is good to really look clearly at what fear is about, where it comes from in you, what is the essence of it, what its purpose is. There are different layers in fear – it comes down to survival things in you that bring you into more alertness in some situations. It doesn’t mean it needs to be translated into fear, it could just simply be translated into alertness. For instance, you are walking somewhere, and suddenly there is a snake on your path. Of course you become alert, because there is a danger, but why should you be afraid? So in your system there is an inbuilt alertness, which is very beautiful; but how come the alertness has become fear? Who has made you afraid of snakes in the first place? And this is a very basic example. Who has made you afraid of love? Who has made you afraid of sex? It is important to question all that, so if I were you, I would not bother so much about the fear, but I would question who in the first place has made you afraid of love, of sex, of deep intimacy, of deep communion. Even afraid of consciousness! Question all that. In questioning all this, you will for sure open up to an inner revolution and this inner revolution is needed in everyone. Everyone now, on this planet, needs to start questioning: “Who has made me afraid of love?”  Your whole nature is made of it! Who has created this fear in you? I would like you to look into that. Once it is clear, you can only laugh at your fear, it will not work anymore.

Who has made you afraid of love? You might see many situations connected to some people. Please don’t bring judgement, because these people also have been made afraid of love, and it goes on and on since many generations. Keeping people in fear, means you can control them. Parents who keep their children in fear  can control them. Parents love their children under some conditions, in this way they impart fear to their children and in this way they can control them. Society does the same on a bigger scale. Religions, most of the religions, also follow the same system. While you are going to start questioning, you might come to a point that it’s not just about your parents, your teachers, your professors or your society – it goes so far away, so far away in time also. You are going to realise it is like this since so long! So when it will come back to you, look at that: do I still want to believe in that, do I still want to cooperate in that, do I also want to make myself and others afraid of love? Because you do. It’s important you also see that. You have been made afraid of love and in that you also start participating in making others afraid of love. It will start making you responsible: First of not cooperating anymore in that inner program of being afraid of love, and second of not making others afraid of love. There is a big urgency happening on this planet since quite a long time already. It’s important you know it is going to become bigger and bigger. It is going to happen more and more on a small scale and a big scale, with war in the big world and war in the small world – such as in your relationship, in family, in your work, and inside of you there also is a war happening. It’s a very important one, I would prefer to call it a revolution rather than a war. Love starts protesting. It is strange to say that, because love never protests anyway. It never argues, it never fights. It’s like a moon – it can receive everything. But it happens now – I could call that inner intelligence of love – the inner intelligence of the spirit of love is protesting. Nobody can kill love, it will not disappear; this is for sure. You can kill everyone on this planet, you can deny your lover, you can deny your family, your children – love will not disappear. But you will damage something. You will damage the possibility of living in love. This is such sad story. While deciding to be born on this planet, you decide to live the potential of love, you decide to experience this. So love, as an inner intelligence, starts protesting, showing you that now it is enough, you all came here to live love, to explore it, to relax in it. Why condemning that potential?

So you have fear, you discover fear. It is true, you have a lot of fears. They all come to one basic fear, which has been imparted on you, and it’s not so much about looking who are responsible; though, like I tell you, start questioning who have made you afraid of love? Start looking deeper into it, start laughing at your fear, build up your trust. Make it clear why you are here. Make it clear you have chosen to be here to build a full potential of living love. And it’s possible you encounter some difficulties around you, because many still believe in fears. So of course if you are suddenly loving, some people will become afraid. Some people will even run away from you. You might become very loving – they will be scared. Like you are scared if someone now comes all loving to you. Have you noticed how many on this planet get condemned for their love, for their consciousness? How many Masters died condemned for their love and consciousness? Even this one that everybody is praying for, this one you call Jesus, this one you called “the messenger of love” – you have nailed him on a cross. Strangely enough you nailed him on a cross and now you pray for him, pray to him. It is a strange absurdity. It is good to look the symbol that has been created to that. You put a loving man, a man whose only message was about love, about intimacy, about family, about a very simple way of living in contact with nature, extremely human. You nail him on a cross, put him dead there, and after that you use it as a symbol for love. What a strange information you give out to the world. What strange information to say that love is suffering, love is misery, love is death. How come that no one has protested from the very start? How come that no one from the very start has said no? There is a simple answer – fear. Religion imposed fear. And this is one example among many.

So yes, you have fear. It doesn’t belong to you. Trusting the inner intelligence of love in you can set off a revolution. In that revolution there will be no fight, there will be good laughter at the face of the fear – how ridiculous it is. How can you be afraid of your own nature? If the moon would come to you saying: I am so afraid of light, what can I do? I am pretty sure you would answer laughing, because you would see how ridiculous it is. So I am a little bit polite with you, I don’t laugh at you, though I really do laugh inside. Your fear is ridiculous and I do understand you have been caught in it, you have been contaminated with it, not knowing how to get rid of it. I give you some understanding, some questioning. Look deeply into it. I would like to all of you to hear that:  you have no reason to be afraid of anything. Be alert. There are dangers on this planet, it is true, but you don’t need fear.

I wish for the year we gather the courage to face our fear to love and consciously set up an inner revolution to free our love in order to manifest a totally new way of relating based on love and consciousness.

With love and gratitude,

Pema

Tantra takes us from pleasure into bliss, but what does it mean?

Taking the example of lovemaking, because it is there that mostly pleasure and bliss play a great role for all of us. Pleasure is a momentary sensation in the body triggering happiness, relaxation, aliveness, a sense of togetherness with a partner.

Bliss is a state attained from being lovingly present without judgment, nore preference to whatever sensations occurring in the body. This state can last hours, days, months and hopefully eternity depending how much we surrender into it.

The deeper we surrender, the more bliss will refine into different layers of expansion starting from the body bliss, where we feel one with our partner. We lose a sense of personality. There is no more you and your partner, but a big space of bliss unifying both of you. But on some level there is still a separation. When bliss expands beyond the body bliss, it moves you into unity with the cosmos, universe, god, something much bigger than you and your partner. This cosmic bliss, if I can name it this way, has no point of return. It is an ever lasting journey.

This journey starts with simple pleasure, such as looking into the eyes of your partner or moving together into deep embrace and lovemaking, just to say it starts in your body! From pleasure into bliss, could be called from body to no-body or the great body of the universe, which I refer to as the Mother space where we all come from.

One of our precious Tantra masters, Arya, has developed his whole teaching around a method uplifting our pleasure into bliss: the Yoga of Creation. The method doesn’t deny desire, but uses it intensely for us to reach a high state of pleasure. When pleasure reaches a peak it is like water boiling, it changes its quality from water to evaporated air. In this way, water doesn’t have a downward movement; it shifts to an upward movement. It literally flights instead of flowing. So it goes for us, when we allow pleasure to reach a peak, we start flying (not literally). This flight is a state of bliss. The very interesting thing making the Yoga of Creation unique is that it views desire, attachment, duality as forces for expansion into bliss. We all have in the back of our so-called spiritual mind that attachment and desire are a source of duality and duality is the black duck of a spiritual seeker, but not in the Yoga of Creation where it is viewed as a phenomenon of creation.

What does lovemaking create in us? What does lovemaking awaken in us?… The Yoga of Creation offers the answers in a lovely, sensual disturbing approach where our believes, concept of what is love, what is divine, what is spiritual get shattered in order to open up a window into the reality of creation within us. From this window we have the choice to take a jump into the unknown, the unnamed. This jump is pure bliss!

Do you like to jump into it?

Arya Maithuná: 4-day retreat from 11 June to14 June at Venwoude Centrum, Netherlands.

The retreat is open as much for lovers as for singles. If you come as a single it is recommended that you bring a person with you, whom you feel like to be intimate with. That will make your process more sweet!

With love and gratitude…

Pema

Wake Up!!

“Wake Up!!” I remember these terrible words knocking on the door of my bedroom every morning to shake me out of bed to go to school. I hated it! It was really a nightmare. But I did get up, I did go to school to finally in the evening end up again in my bed. Lying down falling asleep, it always felt as if the real life was starting! Dreaming was better than real life!

Many years later, I heard again “Wake Up!” this time I was not sleeping, which was puzzling because I felt awake, so how to wake up?…

“Wake Up!” my Master said until I understood the meaning of it. Though I had my eyes open, going for my daily life activities which would show that I was definitely awake, I saw I did it all from a sleepy state, like a robot. This realization was extremely shocking and painful. It happened 20 years ago. Since then, it has been a constant journey to come out of sleep! The sleep of jealousy, of greed, of sex, of anger, of desire, of conditioning, of believes, of spiritual ideas, of tantric concepts, of identification, of whatever keeps me divided… There is a long list, but it can be simply resume to: “Wake Up out of Illusion!!”

The essence of every spiritual Path is about waking up and the Tantra Path is one of them, but it can be easily misused. Misused for ones own pleasure, desire and ego. You can use Tantra as a very powerful entertainment that keeps you in the illusion that you are awake while actually you are simply feeding your dream of awakening!

I hear many people say: “I long to be awakened.” It always makes me silently giggle, because I can see it is not true. At night, before going to sleep, you put an alarm clock in order to wake up the next morning! You do not trust your silly longing of waking up because you know yourself, once asleep you will indulge into some nice dreams in your cozy bed. Somewhere you can’t deceive yourself completely. You know your weakness! So you put an alarm clock to wake up!

In every Tantric method lies a hidden alarm clock, but you can avoid it by staying on the surface of your own little selfish pleasure. It gives you a momentary feeling of aliveness that you confuse with being awake. Alive and awake are not at all the same things! You do not end up with the same result at all. You can be very alive and yet totally sleepy. And you can be nearly dead and yet totally awake!

Tantra stimulates your life energy. It boosts it to its full capacity, potential. It makes you really alive, ecstatic like you have maybe never felt before, but did you ever ask for what? This whole energy is not just for the ecstasy of aliveness, but essentially for the bliss of awakening. It is not only for your physical orgasm, however amazing it is! It is for an all together different orgasm: awakening, enlightenment in other terms.

It is easier to present Tantra as a Path to super full-body-orgasms than towards  awakening, because it sells better! Sex sells good!! Awakening is too scary and it doesn’t feel very juicy! In putting out Tantra as a “super sex food” that is going to change your life totally, by solving all your problems just because you are going to have an amazing orgasm, it triggers the temptation to misuse it by staying on the juicy side of great sex. It keeps you indulging into dreams, into sleep.

Though it is very important to wake up the full orgasmic potential of the body, it is even more important to understand why and what for! The only purpose is awakening, the by-products of ecstasy, fantastic orgasm, and delightful sensations are gifts you can enjoy fully, but not indulge in or confuse with awakening.

To avoid going astray, there is a key: surrender. It is very important to understand its functions. Without this key, you do not open the door for the energy to rush higher than your body pleasure. You keep somewhere in control of your energy. You can guide it to amazing full body orgasms, or to a very ecstatic state, but you do not cross the other side where you are awake. You are in a state of letting go, but not of surrender. Like the confusion between being alive and being awake, there is also the confusion between letting go and surrender. To come to a state of Aliveness, you need the key of letting go. To come to a state of Awakening, you need the key of surrender.

Alive, in letting go, you still have a certain subtle control. Your body might be very ecstatic but you still hang onto your ego. You are still divided. Awaken, in surrender, you are out of control, the ego has dissolved and you are in bliss, in expansion, in unity.

Now, if you receive this newsletter it is because you are on the Path of Tantra. I would like you to take time to look a bit deeper where you are on the Path.  Are you in letting go or in surrender?

If you want out of Tantra only to be alive, I would like to tell you without offending you, that you are misusing the Path. Tantra can offer you much more then that! Are you ready for it?

With love and gratitude…

Pema Gitama